The Shocking Secret to Great Teams Is Talented People Being Nice

by S. Chris Edmonds on Mar 22, 2016 2:34:25 PM
The Shocking Secret to Great Teams Is Talented People Being Nice by TINYpulseWe have a civility crisis on our hands. Incivility happens in the workplace, in our communities, in our homes.
Incivility can be bold or subtle. It can be more passive, experienced in the form of dismissing, discounting, or demeaning others or their ideas. It can be more aggressive, experienced in the form of name-calling, bullying, physical abuse, and worse.
Watching our presidential candidates’ recent behavior here in the U.S. shows quite a bit of the subtle and too-frequent demonstrations of the bold!

The Problem at Hand

  • 95% of respondents believe there is a civility problem in America
  • 50% of respondents have ended a friendship because the other person was uncivil
  • Respondents reported experiencing incivility  offline and online — an average of 2.4 times per day
  • 43% expect to experience incivility in the next 24 hours
  • 81% of respondents think uncivil behavior leads to an increase in violence
  • 80% of respondents believe that the level of civility won’t improve until our government leaders act more civilly


Based on what we’ve seen so far in the presidential campaigns, it’s possible government leaders’ behavior will be even more uncivil in the future.


Incivility in the Workplace

The worst example of incivility in the workplace is delivered by bullies. A 2014 study by the Workplace Bullying Institute found that:
  • 27% of U.S. workers have experienced or are experiencing abusive conduct at work
  • Bosses are responsible for 56% of bullying in the workplace
  • Most concerning is that 72% of employers deny, discount, encourage, rationalize, or defend abusive behavior in their organizations
Incivility erodes trust, respect, and dignity, which, in turn, erodes performance by individuals and teams. How do we know? We have anecdotal experience that supports these outcomes of incivility. Even better, we have Google’s Project Aristotle.

Google's Project Aristotle

In 2012, Google began studying how to create the perfect team at Google. The initiative, called Project Aristotle, studied hundreds of Google’s teams to understand why some teams performed well and enjoyed working together while other teams struggled.
They researched and studied like crazy. They couldn’t find consistent, distinct patterns. Some great teams had strong managers while other great teams had hands-off managers. Some strong teams hung out after work and on weekends while other great teams engaged only in their work together.
They began looking at team culture and team norms — those formal and informal guidelines for how people are to treat each other on the team. They found that a team culture and norms that establish psychological safety — a sense of confidence that team members will not embarrass, reject, or punish someone for speaking up — was a consistent feature of Google’s most successful teams.
After four years of study, the project team found that when talented team members trust, respect, and value each other’s experiences and ideas, the team thrives. People are nice to each other. They listen and show sensitivity to peers' feelings and needs. And that doesn’t describe how many teams operate today.
We have work to do. By creating a values-based organizational culture and norms, we can reduce the frequency of incivility in people’s lives. That’s an outcome worth pursuing.


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This post was written by S. Chris Edmonds

Chris is the author of the Amazon best sellers The Culture Engine, Leading At a Higher Level with Ken Blanchard, and five other books. Chris's blog, podcasts, research, and videos can be found at Driving Results Through Culture. Thousands of followers enjoy his daily quotes on organizational culture, servant leadership, and workplace inspiration on Twitter.

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